The Universe and Love

This morning, I was talking with a gentle lady who was hurt very badly in a relationship. She was in love and she thought it was forever. I won't go into the details, because the details aren't what's important. The things he did and the choices he made eroded her trust. This is what so easily destroys a relationship. As much as she loved him, she walked away.

It made me sad to hear her story -- but more from the standpoint that I'm seeing so many, many people who are disillusioned by what they thought was love. Are we, as a whole, putting too many expectations on love? Are we offering our trust too readily to a lover? Are we asking for more than we are willing to give? Are we bringing our own baggage and fears with us into a relationship and, at the very first echo of those same fears, we immediately react with anger, resentment and hurt? I wish I had an easy answer to all of those questions.

I spoke with Dinahh and asked for his guidance about love and our expectations. To paraphrase, Dinahh reminded me that the universe is pure love -- we all came from that love when we became spiritual beings here on our journey to gain human experience. We are still filled with that love, we just forget. The purpose of our soul when it chooses to enter this lifetime as a being is to learn, but ideally, it learns from within the love we already are and from the love within our hearts -- to do that we have to open our hearts fully to again feel (to again remember we are apart of) that love.

Along our human journey, we also learn fear and hurt. If we don't face those fears and put them behind us, we will carry them with us through each successive lifetime. By facing those fears as we encounter them and by embracing them, feeling the hurt throughout us, we can then let the hurt/fear go. In this way, the "baggage" we have accumulated (the bad karma) can at last be released and is gone. Dinahh cautioned that until we can release those fears, with each relationship we enter, we bring with us the same hurt and fear.

Dinahh also told me to remember that when we enter a relationship, a heart is offered to us in the palm of a hand. It's like a burning nova to a soul's private world, where love and forgiveness know no bounds. Tender and trusting, this heart beats only for us with the hope of lasting forever. If we allow the fear and hurt to intrude, fear (and the resultant hurt) fans out like surface ripples on a pond after a pebble falls. Each new hurt then spreads rings even wider, and with each new ring, feelings fade and trust dies. Every hurt chills deeper, until cold as ice, fear becomes like a stone bouncing on a frozen pond, until its rhythm is etched forever in a closed and loveless heart.

If we accept a heart that's offered, we must treat it like our own. It must be nurtured and loved and everything shared. As Dinahh said, we are pure love and we're all a part of the great mystery and magic of the universe.

Namaste.

p.s. I'm going to visit family for the weekend. I hope you have a wonderful weekend. I'll see you again on Monday.